05 Mar Brothers in Arms / Vow of Purity
God has been immensely good. I am constantly overwhelmed by the clear acts of God in supporting me during this time.
In the last three weeks, I’ve met with over 18 godly, Christian brothers. These are from church, work or friends I have. And what is so surprising is that I have not sought these meetings out. So many meals, phone calls and coffees. And it’s so encouraging to hear their stories, pray with them and be challenged. I’ve been able to ask my Christian colleagues for accountability so that we can keep each other faithful to our wives. All of us want strong marriages, and this level of iron sharpening iron is massively powerful.
Young men stumble and fall; But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.Isaiah 40:30
Here’s a solid sermon on honesty:
It is impossible to build a marriage upon sin. The vow of Purity is such a critical vow. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Sin makes us ashamed, and we naturally want to hide it. Eph 5:8 – once darkness, now light in the Lord. Sometimes our eyes (lives) adjust to the darkness, we drifted from God and our spouses. But we’re called to live as children of live: goodness, righteousness and truth. That’s what I want in my marriage. Having nothing to do with fruits of darkness: expose them!
You will never find healing in the dark. Only in the night. We cannot let impurity come into our marriage: not even a hint. It corrupts & poisons. We don’t realise that adultery is committed far earlier: small elements of darkness. Starting with lust. We might not think this is a big deal, but when you recognise the sin line, then it’s a big deal. You cannot build a marriage on sin. You want to stay away from it! Proverbs 5:8 – “Keep a path far from. Don’t even go near the door of her house!” If there’s something that gets in the way of your righteousness, then run away from it. Don’t get close to it. It’s not okay. Dangerous. Stay away. You cannot have secrets in marriage.
Why in the world would I resist a temptation in the future that I have the power to eliminate today.
Dont put yourself to any situation. Why? I don’t want to dishonour God and dishonour my bride. How do we live purely in an impure world? Psalm 119:9-11 – we live according to God’s word by knowing His word. We must study it. It’s living bread we feed on every day. It nourishes and strengthens us. This word leads us out of darkness and into light. As we seek Him, we are led to Him. That which used to attract me… now repulses me. There is nothing on sin’s side that will draw. I’ve tasted the goodness of righteousness, and why would I sell that for sin’s darkness. When you know Him, what used to lure me, now repulses me. We’re being transformed into Christ’s image: light.
Amy says: Garbage in, Garbage out. Don’t read or watch trash. Not just media, but avoiding by not having long conversations alone with another opposite sex. Safeguard your marriage. Keep our relationship strong. Don’t keep secrets from each other. Don’t keep separate accounts we want to let each other know everything. Sharing things makes us stronger and makes us closer. Our marriage is full of peace, we have trust that transceneds understanding. No fear. Total trust. When you have trust, then everything good happens there: intimacy and friendship. That’s where we are: from being honest and not having secrets.
It hurts the heart of God when we sin. If you step across these lines: think ahead to this will mean and what this will cost you. 1) I would dishonour God, and drag Christ’s name through the mud. 2) Lose reputation, ministry and marriage. I’d have to look at my wife, and inflict hurt on the woman who has given everything to me. For a few moments of selfishness, I could ruin my life.
Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Adultery is license to divorce, but also to forgive. Bring what is dark to light. We confess for healing. Stop hiding. You cannot heal in the dark. Get help. Those on the receiving end of a confession, then may God give you the ability to receive it with grace. The truth comes out. You cannot have what God wants in marriage if you don’t have truth. Only truth allows you to get the healing you need. God wants so much more for marriage than we have for today. Serving my bride with everything.
Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercyProverbs 28:13
May our marriage be a testimony to God’s goodness. Wow.